Ep59: Staying vs Not Leaving

29 minutes

Ep 59

Have you ever thought about the difference between staying and not leaving? There is very different energy between the two, even though we confuse them. Sometimes the middle lane seems like a lane where you can hang out and coast, and not make a choice, but it can be a dangerous place to stay.

In this episode, let’s talk about that place between staying and leaving.


Why is that important for business?

In companies, often there is an employee that someone is frustrated with, but no one is ready to terminate. Whether it be because of value or potential or just the hassle of hiring someone else, they are kept on and both parties live in that dangerous middle lane.

Sometimes “stuck” is when you already know what you want to do, but you are not ready to admit or commit to that choice.

If you make demands and they do everything you ask, are you going to be happy? Or are you going to be disappointed that, even though they have met all of the theoretical criteria that set out for them, you are still not satisfied with them remaining? We make emotional decisions and look for rational validations for those decisions after the fact. But if you have already made a decision about an employee staying or leaving, don’t set up a process that their best outcome leaves you disappointed.

Model of engagement – Jodi provide? The worst case scenario isn’t that they quit, or even that they stay – it’s that they quit and stay.  An employee that is emotionally checked out, driving in the middle lane, doesn’t allow for anything good to happen for either the employee or the employer. 

The ability to stay in the honest conversation and just talk about the things that are is the way through it. You can’t know where that path leads, but the honest conversation is the only way to get there. Nothing good ever comes in the middle ground.


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