Ep210: Confidence & the Truest Expression of You
Can you build confidence directly, or do you have to come at it obliquely, through just being yourself? Let’s discuss.
Why is that important for business?
People often think of confidence in terms of external validation, but if that’s the case, it can easily be cannibalized because you get worried how people will react. But what if the most confident thing you can do is just be you?
This can look like put on a “CEO posture”, where you are filtering the perception of confidence through what you think people want to see vs being yourself and using your strengths. If you have to run confidence through a filter of the feedback you get, maybe it isn’t actually confidence.
When you look at it this way, you eliminate the fear of being good enough, because what you are going for is simply the truest expression of yourself. It isn’t about putting on blinders and doing what you want, but about not letting feedback or external opinions stop you from taking action.
Some things are obliquely arrived at – you can’t pursue happiness, but you can pursue meaning and get happiness as a by-product. Maybe you also can’t pursue confidence directly, but instead you arrive at confidence by the pursuit of grounded surety in what you want to create and who you are. Confidence comes through taking action, and anything that gets in the way of that action will stymy confidence.
Other resources mentioned
NPR interview, One Woman Band Joan Armatrading Releases 22nd Album: https://www.npr.org/2021/06/20/1008449139/one-woman-band-joan-armatrading-releases-22nd-album
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