Ep197: You-Shaped Feedback

29 minutes

How do you pick a mentor? What is necessary to being a good mentor? And do you still need a Sherpa if you have already summited the mountain?

Why is that important for business? 

Mentors or NA sponsors are something that successful people use to succeed in business and sobriety. But once you’ve “made it”, do you still need on? 

A mentor isn’t someone that gives you the answers. A good mentor or sponsor is there to help you avoid falling into your usual traps, and keep you focused on the line of thinking that got you to the summit in the first place. They need to know and understand you so they can help you evolve. There is a weight and gravity that comes with the title, and they need you to be able to not figure out if something is a good idea, but if it is a good idea for you. They need to know you well enough not to necessarily answer, but to help you re-orient you back to yourself. 

Once you are reoriented, you often know what the next thing is. And they need to be able to recognize what a valuable failure for you is, as well as invalid (or not good for you right now) success. Mentorship is getting them back to who they are so they can make whatever decision is right for them. Even if a mentor thought they had all the right answers for themself, they should be insightful enough to see that they don’t have all the answers for someone else. 

And this isn’t (just) about accountability. Sometimes, what people need is to be nudged into action, but sometimes what they need is to let their own processes unfold. There is an art to knowing the difference. Accountability is only valuable if it is action in the right direction. 

You need a mentor who gets who you are so their feedback is you-shaped. 

Other resources mentioned

Dismantling the Myth of the Self-Reliant CEO: https://www.fastcompany.com/3060235/dismantling-the-myth-of-the-self-reliant-ceo

What story do you want to tell?

So, that's our story... now, we want to hear yours!

Pull up a chair and join the conversation in our Facebook Group: bit.ly/shmsgroup


Shoot us an email: talktous@soheresmystory.com

Connect with @SHMSpodcast on Twitter: https://twitter.com/shmspodcast 

Text the word STORY to 345345 to get access to bonus content and weekly episode delivery.

Want to support us?

Love this podcast?

Please tell your friends, post about us, or take a moment to review us & subscribe on iTunes, Stitcher, or wherever you listen to the podcast!

More episodes from So, Here's My Story...

Ep225: Hoarding and Hermione

How do you strike the balance between keeping things that you might not ever need, and getting rid of things that you might regret not having?

Why is that important for business? 

Having …

Ep224: Do You Expect to Be Heard?

Do you expect to be heard? Or do you just assume that how things are is how they have to be?

Why is that important for business? 

Do you have a say or a voice? Do you expect to be heard? If …

Ep223: Tight Glutes & Communicating Needs

Like all good lessons about asking for what you need in business, this lesson starts in a massage parlor. 

Why is that important for business? 

You need to be aware of your needs (in …

Ep222: Wrestling with Adversity

When you find out you are riding with the descendent of a nationally acclaimed blind wrestler, you know you’re in for some stories. And it turns out, we can turn those stories into some …

Ep221: Replay - The Art of Finishing Well

We don't talk about endings enough, especially not ending things well, with as much celebration as we began them. And that is exactly what this episode is about.

Why is that important for …

Ep220: Diversity of Thought vs. Culture

Whether it’s politics, sports or happy hour, sometimes your company culture can make others feel uncomfortable. At what point do you make changes to …

How you can listen to this podcast

You can listen to episodes right here on the website, or if you prefer, in a podcast app. Listening in an app makes it easier to keep track of what you’ve already heard, listen without using your data plan and many other conveniences.

Recommended apps
Start listening to Ep225: Hoarding and Hermione
Start listening to Ep225: Hoarding and Hermione