Ep163: The "Too Much" Club

25 minutes

How many times have you been told you are “too much” for someone – too loud, too talkative, too pensive. Now – how many times have you let someone believe they were too much? 

Why is that important for business? 

The right people are going to welcome your “too much”, and a smart business understands the opportunity available in “too much”. Some of the most amazing people you know have been accused of some version of “too much”, and as members of the "Too Much" Club, we need to learn an important lesson, right from Jodi’s mom’s mouth to our ears:

“Never cut off your toes to fit in a boot.”

Telling someone they are too much stunts their development and stops growth, all the things that make a great leader. Anything that trims a person down and files their edges is criminally (not literally, but you get the point) unfortunate.  

If people are telling you not to be yourself, they aren’t your people. 

It becomes almost a litmus test for finding your people, because your people will appreciate all the too muchness of you. And that too muchness? You should follow it to the places where it’s an exact right fit. Because someone who calls out another person as too much, is also saying they are not big enough for the level of what you are bringing. You won’t ever see how much someone can be if you are always telling them they are “too much”. 

This is also a useful tool for growing your organization – be on the lookout for someone too much in some respect for their current situation, because therein lies the opportunity for evolution. 

But the real irony is that you very well might be nodding along, never realizing that you are also telling people they are “too much”. So it’s important to go from asking “am I restricting someone?” to “how am I restricting somebody?” Make the assumption that you are and be curious to find the answer. 

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